How to Compliment Someone…Without Mentioning Appearance

COMPLIMENTS ARE THE BEST. 

I make a point in my life to give compliments readily, and most importantly, genuinely. Because the feeling it gives someone is awesome! Who doesn’t want to be known as someone who spreads love and positivity? It’s really something amazing you can do for another person, in turn making you feel pretty good yourself.

“So why shouldn’t we compliment people based on appearance? People are pretty!?”

Here’s the thing: Yes, people are pretty, but when we only ever give appearance-focused compliments, it perpetuates the notion that physical attributes are held at a higher value than anything else. If these are the only characteristics that a person gets complimented on positively, it becomes problematic in the sense that they don’t see more value in themselves beyond their ‘nice hair’ ‘weight loss’ or ‘pretty smile’.